There are times in one’s life when you need to take a moment to reflect on certain situations and find strength out of it. This year, I had that moment- when I realised I had lost 12 months of content from the site. Every bit of hard work, time, money and resources used in creating those contents was wiped off as though they never existed.
I cried, sulked and had one of the most massive meltdowns I have had in a long time. It felt as though I had lost someone because, for me, this can be compared to having your goods sink in the high sea. It is like losing precious documents in a fire incident that leaves you with only memories- memories that you can barely recreate as fresh as they were first told.
It was in that moment I began to see the importance of the serenity prayer which I have known since I was a child. It says:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.
The first step to getting past this situation was coming to the realisation that I cannot undo what has been done. Like my best friend said to me, ‘It’s okay for you to lament but right now, you need to stop and let’s think of a solution’. I had to seek peace despite the storm; clear out my chaotic thoughts and begin to process what I could do differently. I kept my mind busy with ideas that I needed to execute to ensure a better brand hence the changes you will begin to see on the site. It was more than enough time to realise that I also needed to equip myself with some basics and be responsible for the fulfilment of the vision.
Today, I am grateful for that moment because of the things that I now know. I will share that with you in another post but they were life changing and have made me a better person. It is difficult to come back from a setback but, it is never impossible. It becomes even more rewarding when you can embrace serenity because then, you can envision the best things out of that situation. Get a paper and begin to pen down every idea that comes to mind, draw tables and charts if you need to and match all that up with actions. If there is anything that I have learnt, you will have stones thrown at you but what you do with them is entirely up to you. For me, I gathered them up and made a bed out of it because I own my space and what I do with that space is entirely up to me.
I hope this post helps someone going through a rocky path right now. It could be much more than words on screen to an actual loss of a loved one. It could be the loss of your dignity in the society or the loss of love from the ones you call your own. It could be disappointment from your event vendors or even worse. I beseech you to say the Prayer of Serenity, seek to understand the meaning and live true to it. Many of us are living in denial and acting like everything is okay. I am not asking you to carry a gloomy face. I need you to live your truth and channel all that energy you are using to act a life into making that life you are acting a reality. May the Lord grant us all the courage to embrace serenity as a way of life.